Tuesday, August 23, 2011


A friend of mine posted this on FB and it got me thinking.

The girl you just called fat has been starving herself & has lost over 30lbs.
The boy you just called stupid has a learning disability & studies over 4hrs a night.
The girl you just called ugly spends hours putting on makeup...hoping people will like her.
The boy you just tripped is abused enough at home.
The girl you called "Jesus Freak" spends hours in prayer for you.
Put this as your status if you're against bullying.

I didn't. I'm not for bullying. I'm against Judgement. I'm against judging before you get to know a person. I'm on the other side, now, I get called a bully myself for speaking my heart. I have a kid they call a bully. But they don't have one that says, that kid that chased you around the schoolyard that you think is a bully has been through more medical procedures than anyone should ever have and doesn't understand that you are scared, he thinks that you're playing together, and just wants to be your friend.

Blessedly my son has a wonderful team of teachers and helpers, and they are so on top of it, they don't let anyone get a chance to be bullied. God Bless the Schools!

Back in my day, all this stuff just got ignored. And though it's directed at bullies, and back in the day I was that fat ugly girl that got teased. But now, I am a parent. And my son uses fat to describe a big person, dark to describe a skin color, not as cruel, but just as simple descriptions. I know, he's only in kindergarten. We try to focus on things but he doesn't get it. Will he ever? I don't know. It hurts my heart to think that there are people out there that may think of Chris as a bully. Are kids even going to give him a chance, are they even going to try to become his friend?

People could miss the opportunity of getting to know my Miraculous son. He's so amazing, I am so Blessed by him. Anyone that bothers to get to know him is Blessed by him. But I get angry at people that turn down the opportunity to get to know him and be loved by him. Not that it hurts Chris, I don't think it does, he is loved by many, but it hurts me. And that makes me angry. Angry at stupid people that would judge him as a bully and not listen to what he's been through, or what he's thinking, or not even bother to give him a chance to see the loving person he is. I suppose it's their loss. They don't get to feel the strength in his hugs, or his infectious laugh. Chris is a Gift from God, and anybody that doesn't bother to hear his story or get to know him is seriously Missing Out.

OK, I'm off my soapbox now.


Unknown said...

Great post, now I'm all teary.